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One Woman’s Reflection on Her Struggle with Food

Wow. I usually don’t post two days in a row, but I just had to send this out. This morning, one of the women in my Intuitive Eating Challenge wrote the message that you see below.

When I first read this, my heart sank. I actually felt like crying.

But then my heart was filled with so much pride, compassion and hope for her. As I read this woman’s reflections, it brought me right back to where I was in the middle of my weight loss struggle. I relate to every single word that she says here.

I want you to take a second to read this and please let me know if you relate.

“Yesterday was hard for me. I started the day feeling upbeat, positive, and like the world was going to turn its attention toward me and open new doors. However, the more I focused on what I wanted in life, the more empty my present life felt.

And, then I was ANGRY at myself…had my strict focus on independence, self-improvement, my tendency towards perfectionism, my obsession with healthy eating and exercise, my social anxiety, and my lack of self-esteem, led me to this life of “deficiency” and “isolation”?

“Perfect” food + “perfect” exercise = no husband, no family of my own, a limited number of friends beyond family to rely on, a career progression that has zigzagged all over the place with limited forward progression, no clear vision for what I want in my future, and the absence of many other things that are meaningful to me. 

I have been like a scared little girl, HIDDEN in the corner, avoiding life.

I apologize for this sob story. I know I am being hard on myself and I do not seek pity. I guess the unintended consequence of learning how to be an intuitive eater is realizing how much of your life has been already sucked away by feelings of lack and uncertainty, manifesting in an obsession/addiction to under/over eat and control food.

I am sad and mad, but also glad. I could continue to live the rest of my days just getting by, but I can now choose to take back ownership over my life…to build in the things that fulfill me…. to celebrate life and to really thrive! I get another chance to dream and to dream BIG. I will make an exceptional life for myself, full of wonderment and joy.

I can’t change the past, but I can darn well choose my course from here and I choose to live BIG and BOLDLY.

I mean, how beautiful is this? Do you relate to this? That feeling that your relationship with food has taken over and is holding you back in your life? Do you have the yearning to live bigger and bolder?

THIS is why I do what I do. I deeply care about helping women regain their lives and learn to curate a life that makes them truly and deeply happy.

We should not put our lives on hold in order to lose weight. We need to be happy first, and THEN the weight falls off and our relationship with food becomes easy. 

If you feel like this woman, and this tugs at your heart, then I strongly suggest you check out my 21 Day Intuitive Eating Challenge that she is currently going through along with so many other women. We are all regaining our lives together and working through this side by side. I’d love to have you join. And if you join today, you get a special discount that I am offering to help celebrate the launch of my new website. 

As the above reflection from this beautiful woman shows, the results you will get from doing the Intuitive Eating Challenge are unquantifiable.

With so much love,


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  1. Alana says

    I feel like my inner dialogue posted this blog! So nice to know that other people have the same thoughts as I do and that it is possible to change it!

    • Jamie says

      Of course!! SO many women feel this way which is why i felt so compelled to post this. Thanks for sharing your thoughts Alana!

  2. Sarah @ The Smart Kitchen says

    Wow. WOW. As I was reading that, I almost wondered if I had somehow written it. That was (sometimes still is) ME. Thankfully, last spring, I accepted that my obsession with food and exercise and controlling them was just standing in for the lack of control I felt in the rest of my life. I still have no marriage prospects, a small network of friends, and am a bit uncertain where life will lead, but I’m trying to embrace that as part of the journey. That wake-up call led me to where I am now–pursuing a PhD in Health Education and Promotion–and although it’s hard to own your life and your future (whatever it may be), it’s really the only way to live–whether it’s how you thought you would or not. 🙂

    • Jamie says

      That’s beautiful Sarah and good for you for pursuing a PhD!! It sounds like you’re really happy. And of course, we don’t know what the future will bring, but that’s part of the excitement of life. I have a feeling that great things are in store for you — keep kicking butt and making the most out of your life today 🙂 xo.

  3. Pru says

    Very touching post. I can totally relate. I am completely stressed and anxious about food. I never know what to eat or what to feed my 18 month old – I have somehow brainwashed myself into believing that if I feed him the wrong thing now he will suffer for the rest of his life. I have come to the realisation that it is my attitude to food not what I feed him that will affect his “food” future. I have started reading Intuitive Eating and I hope to do your 21 day challenge to start to heal my own relationship with food. Thank you for your blog Jamie it is people like you who are helping me better understand how to eat and how to live. Bless

  4. Adrianne Shelton says

    Hello! I’m so glad you’re offering this challenge again. SO GLAD. I just purchased it, but can’t get to any facebook pages or anything…. I’m dying to get started but have lost my information 🙂

  5. Kathryn says

    This article is exactly my life. Its not a “sob story”! Its motivating because it never is too late. Sometimes I feel like I’ve been doing this all my life and the struggle to change is just too much because I’m too far gone to make a difference. That’s wrong, its never too late to change and move forward.

  6. Natalie says

    Thank you for this post and for your client’s honesty. I call myself a recovering perfectionist. I lived too many years thinking if it wasn’t perfect it wasn’t worth it so I basically did a whole lot of nothing. I am in “recovery” and I have learned that the first step is forgiving me for “wasting time” protecting myself from imperfection and thus life. I see this in married friends and mommy friends too, its not just the single gals. Anyway, thank you. I am new to your blog and I’m looking forward to your Holiday Challenge.

  7. Hannah says

    I’m almost positive that I wrote that! 😀 Not really… but boy is it similar!! Beautiful.


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