There’s something I’ve been thinking about a lot lately that I want to share.
It’s about keeping your commitments to yourself, and what that does for your self-trust, your growth, and your confidence.
But, it’s not just about any commitments. It’s about choosing aligned commitments and then following through on those.
Here’s what I mean:
This past week, I was in Maine at a friends house with a group of our friends (don’t worry, we were all COVID tested prior!).
I knew going into the week that it was important to me to work full days while I was there, despite there being lots of activities going on around me.
And because I wanted to work full days, I knew it was important that I stuck to my morning practices that prepared me mentally and physically to have the best work day I could.
And so every day, I got up, made my matcha, did whatever morning practice felt best, and showed up full-on in my business for the day.
- Even if people thought I was a weirdo making matcha in the morning (I brought my matcha + favorite almond milk from home, ha!).
- Even if there were a ton of other invitations to go play all day.
- Even if it meant going to bed earlier than other people so I could wake up feeling rested and refreshed.
I did what I had to do to commit to my work.
Because for that week, committing to my work is what felt most aligned. It’s what lit me up and brought me joy the most. It’s what felt most inspiring.
But here’s the thing… in the exact same situation, it also COULD have felt really good to me to NOT work the whole week, and instead I could have “committed” to having fun and being really connected.
It’s all about what is most aligned for you in the moment.
And that changes all the time.
Your priorities, and what is in your highest good is always changing.
Here’s another example:
Let’s say you are launching a program in your business.
Maybe you notice that you have a pattern of “giving up” on yourself if enough people haven’t purchased your courses within a few days.
So you start to doubt yourself, wonder if anyone even likes you, and then 3 days in, you pull back on your marketing efforts and instead of pushing through to the finish line, you mentally give up, saying “well, whatever, whoever has joined already is good enough”.
In that case, the next time you launch a course it may feel really in alignment to your highest self for you to commit to promoting the course every single freakin’ day until you close the doors to enrollment.
It’s in alignment because it is helping you evolve.
It’s in alignment because it’s what your highest self would do and would want for you.
It’s in alignment because it’s moving you forward toward your highest potential.
Conversely, let’s say you’re someone who OVER plans your launches and you have promotional material meticulously planned out for every single day of your launch. It leaves you feeling a lack of spontaneity and intuition, and like you are overly forcing and controlling the outcome.
Perhaps for you, what is most in alignment for your next launch is for you to practice going with the flow and trusting your intuition to take your marketing day-by-day, acting more from your inspiration and less from your brain.
Do you see what I mean? The most aligned commitment for you will always change and will always be in service to what your highest self needs in order to grow in this moment.
All of this to say, it’s worth it to explore: what do you want to commit to this week?
Some questions to get you thinking:
- What do you want to commit to in your business this week? How do you want to show up? What would make you SO proud of yourself at the end of the week?
- What do you want to commit to in how you take care of yourself this week? What is your highest self, deep down, asking for you to do for yourself?
- What can you commit to in terms of how you show up in your relationships? Is there anything you want to practice this week?
And then check your answer… does this feel aligned? With your highest self? With your joy? With your growth? With your inspiration?
One last example because I see this often… if I told myself that I wanted to commit to “running 5 days a week” this week, I would KNOW that it wasn’t aligned for me because (1) something like that feels like it’s coming from a place of wanting to FIX my body, lose weight, or some other fear tactic which is never in alignment with my highest self and (2) it is NOT inspiring! (3) It’s coming from a place of what I think I “should” do vs. what is actually aligned with my true desires.
Bottom line… make sure your commitments are coming from the right place.
And then, can you step up and commit to them? Show yourself that you can trust yourself to follow-through?
This is what makes ourselves proud of ourselves, and what builds confidence.
It’s what builds self-trust, knowing that we’re capable of following through on what’s important to us.
You’ve got this!