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Does your inner critic exhaust you?

Hey there! 

The other day, I came home from a long day out and about, and I realized how exhausted I felt. But, not necessarily physically exhausted. Mentally exhausted.

I endearingly laughed to myself as I thought “Jamie you exhausted yourself!”

My worries, concerns, and fears were swirling around in my head all day long. I was probably walking around with a furrowed brow, a very “serious” face, and stress emanating out of my pores.

Can you relate at all?

Do you ever exhaust yourself because your inner critic, “monkey brain” is going wild about something all day?

Like, you had 1,782,654 thoughts about what food you should eat…

I really want that egg sandwich.

No, you can’t have that. Too many carbs.

But I’m trying to listen to my body.

Does my body want it?

Body, do you WANT IT?

God, I don’t even know how to listen to my body.

This is so dumb.

How many calories are in that anyway? Ugh, I’m not supposed to be counting calories.

But just for old times sake, how many are in there?

If I have the egg sandwich, I NEED to have a salad for lunch to balance it out.

Yes. That’s the plan. Egg sandwich and salad for lunch.

Should I get egg whites or real eggs? ….

You know how it goes.

Or maybe, you’re over thinking what to say to that guy you’re dating (same scenario can be used for a friend, family member, etc.)…

He suggested we meet at 9pm but I would rather meet earlier.

Should I say something?

Will he think I’m bossy and controlling?

My last boyfriend thought I was controlling. I should probably just keep quiet this time.

But ugh, 9pm is way too late. I won’t get home till 11:30 and I’m trying to get more sleep.

But I don’t want to inconvenience him.

Maybe I’ll just suck this one up and if we go out again, then I’ll speak up for myself.

Why do I always get so confused about what to do? Can someone just tell me what to do?

I’m so tired of this.

Or, maybe your inner critic comes out to play when you’re putting on your outfit for the day…

Dammit, these jeans are tight.

This is awful, I am getting so fat.

SEE, I knew I couldn’t “trust my body”.

I’m so uncomfortable and gross.

I feel so unattractive. What are people going to think of me?

This is already ruining my day.

I have nothing to wear.

Nothing looks good. I’m so gross.

How am I going to fix this??? I hate feeling like this.

Tomorrow, I am going to cut out sugar. Yes, that will fix this.

You see where I’m going with this.

Our inner critic is always up there talking and talking and talking.

We all have certain areas of our lives where our inner critic speaks the loudest.

For some women, it’s in their careers. They always think they are doing a bad job, should be doing more, are inadequate, or need to prove themselves.

For many women, it’s with their bodies. They are always comparing to others, thinking they should look different than they do, and feeling unattractive.

For others, it’s with their relationships. They may feel unsupported, envious, controlling, or unsure how to love and feel loved.

Here’s the thing:

We ALL have an inner critic, and we always will. It’s part of being human!

However, we NEED to learn how to manage it.

If we don’t, we will repeat the same limiting behaviors and patterns over and over. We will keep exhausting ourselves with our own thoughts. We will keep feeling stuck, small, anxious, and fearful.

When I realized that I had “exhausted myself” that day, I thankfully had the tools to work through it. I was able to witness my inner critic, understand it’s core fears and why it was running rampant all day in my head, manage it, and reconnect back to my higher self. I was able to get back to a place of peace.

I’m well aware that my inner critic will always be there, as will yours.

But having the tools to work through these moments is life changing.

It means that your inner critic will quiet down.

You’ll learn to understand it and work with it.

You’ll learn how to have compassion toward your fears.

You’ll learn how to RECONNECT to the other voice in your head that is SO important to connect to – the one that is loving, true, and real. This is the voice of your true, higher self.

In Week Two of my Master Your Life Course, we go into “Mental Self-Care” where we focus exclusively on this topic.

Last year, the women who participated in MYL said that this was one of their favorite weeks and that it was full of breakthroughs for them.

The concepts I teach and the way I break down the “voices in your head” will dramatically shift how you manage your thoughts and the “stories” that are running your life.

You will learn the MENTAL process that will support you living with confidence, power, and love for yourself. Because yes, confidence is built in your mind.

This is super important, guys, which is why I am devoting a whole email to it! I am super passionate about this area of Self-Care and I hope that you check out Master Your Life if it’s something you want to dive more into.

If you have any questions, just leave a comment below or shoot me an email at jamie@jamiemendell.com and I’m happy to answer them.

And even if you don’t sign up for MYL, I do hope that you know that your inner critic doesn’t need to be so powerful and loud, and that you can learn how to manage it. I hope you do this for yourself. The results are truly life changing.

Love you!

Jamie

P.S. Have you signed up yet for my free webinar on Thursday? We’re going deep into self-care and how it healed my relationship with food (and changed so much more for me) and how you can use self-care to create lasting changes for you, too. Here’s the link to sign up. I hope to get to hang out with you then!

Jamie

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