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If we were having coffee right now, this is what I’d tell you…

I’m sitting in my favorite little cafe and am SO excited to get to write to you today. These “If we were having coffee right now…” posts are my absolute favorite because I get to just catch up with you like we’re friends catching up over a coffee! Or a matcha! Or whatever beverages we may be in the mood for! 🙂

There has been so much happening in my life these days, as I’m sure there has been in yours, too.

Naturally, I’ve been learning lesson after lesson as I navigate the ups and downs of everything going on. I am always living my life with the question in my mind of “what am I supposed to be learning from this right now?”

​​​Truly, every experience we go through is a lesson FOR us — teaching us something we need to know to evolve.

​​​​​​​Okay before I get too into that, I’ll cut to the chase and catch you up.

​​​Here’s what’s been going on in my life!

If we were having coffee right now… I would absolutely tell you about the Retreat that I just ran in NYC for 4 days. This was a MAJOR business milestone for me and it took a ton of courage for me to put this on. From the moment I launched my business 5 years ago, I dreamed of running Retreats, but I have always been way too intimidated and scared of the idea. Who the heck is going to get on a plane and FLY to attend to a Retreat with me? Who am I to put that on? I could never make that happen. Overtime, as I’ve grown and gained confidence, those fears slowly started to fall away. It no longer felt impossible… in fact, it felt SO possible. Of course I was still scared, but I was suddenly ready to take it on. The Retreat was a massive success and I am still taking in everything that happened that weekend. We had 13 women attend – from all over the country + Canada + one woman from SPAIN (crazy, right!?). I am deeply honored to be able to do this work and I feel so lucky that things in my business are going in this direction. More Retreats to come 🙂

If we were having coffee right now… I would of course tell you about my dating life. If you’ve been following these posts for a while, you know that I always talk about this because it is such a BIG part of my life right now (I am 30, so very much in the thick of this!). I really feel like in the last 8 months, the Universe was like “okay Jame, we are going to throw your love life into high gear and have you learn everything double-time”. Oh. My. Gosh. This part of my life has been wild lately. I have learned SO much about myself and have been navigating a ton. I feel so lucky to have had really beautiful relationships lately and am “practicing love” (as one of my coaches says) with such awesome men. I don’t want to go into too much detail here, but one day I promise to share so much more. This area of my life has been my greatest teacher lately, and I am really proud of myself for navigating intense vulnerability, uncertainty, openness, insecurity, and my truest desires with as much Self-Care as possible.

If we were having coffee right now…I would tell you that I am not moving to Seattle, and I’d tell you the real reasons why. So many of you have asked… what happened to your Seattle idea? If you’ve been around here for a while, you know that I truly thought I was going to be moving to Seattle a few months ago. I visited for the first time in October and then went out there again with my Dad in January to solidify my thoughts. I have never felt SO close to actually pulling the trigger and moving, but ultimately, I decided not to. It came down to two main reasons. One, from a business perspective, I want to keep doing more collaborations, events and in-person things, so moving to a place where I know nobody would have thrown a wrench in that. But the real main reason was something that was hard for me to admit but what I really NEEDED to accept…. I just didn’t have the energy or the desire to move across the country alone. I can be really independent – you guys know I traveled to Asia by myself for 2 months last year! – but right now, I don’t feel like I’m in an “independent” phase. I feel like I am in a “connection” phase. I LOVE having my family nearby. I LOVE feeling so incredibly connected to my community here in NYC. I just feel like sinking more into the love and community that I already have here, vs. flexing my independent muscles right now. This was a big lesson for me — a year ago, flexing my independent muscles and going abroad for 2 months solo was EXACTLY what I needed. Now, I am craving the opposite and loving THAT. It’s okay to change and be in different phases!

I would definitely tell you what’s next in my business… a Retreat in Santa Barbara! This one is for entrepreneurs, and it’s called “Big Soul”. I’ve partnered again with my girl Libby Crow to run a soulful retreat for female entrepreneurs. We did this Retreat last year, too, in Big Sur, and are so excited to be doing it again. I absolutely LOVE helping people with their businesses, so getting to run this Retreat again is a dream! If you’re a female entrepreneur looking for a weekend filled with yoga, delicious food (we have a private chef!), business masterminding, learning, so much self-care, and connecting to other badass ladies, let me know!

​I would probably tell you the latest in my own health journey, because it’s always something I’m working on and experimenting with! One thing I’ve started dabbling in is “cycle syncing” – where I am more conscious of where I am in my cycle and making some adjustments to my food, workouts, and productivity goals accordingly. I use the “MyFLO” app on my phone and track my periods, and check in on it almost every day. The app tells me which “phase” of my cycle I’m in (menstruation, follicular, ovulation or luteal) and gives me tips for that particular phase. It’s been pretty eye opening and explains a lot about why at certain times of the month I barely want to move my body and at other times I have so much energy. It also was the catalyst for me giving up coffee for a couple weeks (which I never thought I would do!). During my period last month, it said to stay away from caffeine because it contributes to cramps due to inflammation. So I didn’t drink coffee for a few days (unheard of for me) and ended up just sticking with it and “experimenting” with that and really loving it! I am back to coffee right now, but I do want to try to gradually move away from it. For anyone who has reduced their coffee, what “morning drink” do you have instead? I need something! And tea feels kinda boring. Any suggestions??

​​​​​If we were having coffee right now… I would also tell you that I’m planning a mini solo escape to go somewhere quiet and WRITE in a few weeks. Living in NYC, it’s sometimes hard for me to really focus deeply on ONE project, so if I have something major to work on, I like to escape to the quiet and focus solely on that one thing. A few years ago, I wrote my Master Your Life course by going to Asheville, NC for two weeks, getting a quiet Airbnb, and just writing! It worked so well for me. In a few weeks, I am going to be making some big updates / upgrades to that same Master Your Life program (we run it every Fall, this is the 3rd year!) so I’m planning a 4-5 day escape to get into my writing / creative zone. I’m thinking somewhere in the Northeast, but haven’t solidified it yet. Do you ever do this? What are your favorite places to go to focus?

I would also tell you that I’m looking forward to a pretty chill summer! I don’t have many plans… and I’m kind of loving not having a ton planned these days. I’ve gone through necessary phases of scheduling out so much of my life and having big things planned all the time, but I’m really loving living a more relaxed day-to-day and letting things come up as they do naturally. I can’t wait to see what the summer brings and am looking forward to keeping things local, chill, and being in the moment (<— always a challenge, but trying!).

​​​​​​​And there’s an update for you! Thank you for reading and for giving me a space to connect with you.

​​​​​​​I am constantly so grateful for having YOU in my community and feel so lucky to have you around.

I would LOVE to hear from you….

  • What is the biggest thing going on in your life right now?
  • ​​​​​​​What are you most excited about?
  • What is challenging you the most?
  • What’s your biggest “life lesson” right now?

Let me know in the comments below!

​​​​​Thank you for being here. I love you!


P.S. Here are some other “if we were having coffee right now…” posts I’ve done throughout the years:

February 2014

June 2014

November 2016


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  1. Shannon says

    I love what you said about moving from an independent phase to a connection phase, so beautiful and that makes so much sense to me! After my divorce I was in an independent phase but have switched to a more connection phase… I have never thought about it like that but it makes so much sense. Thank you for providing that moment of clarity! I loved the blog post 🙂



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