We’ve all been there. We open up the doors to our closet and see a range of sizes, all reflecting a different time in our lives when we weighed something different.
We have those skinny jeans that we squeezed into after that crazy diet we went on for three months, and those not-so-skinny jeans we had to buy as we sadly realized we gained all the weight back… again.
We have that beautiful, sexy, flowy dress we wore that one summer we shed all the extra weight, and then that frumpy dress we remember feeling so awfully insecure in when we gained it all back.
When I talk to clients, their closet woes often come up.
I hate everything in my closet.
It depresses me to get dressed in the morning.
I want to look _____ , but I just can’t right now. Not until I lose all this weight.
So what to do about this?
1. First, understand this: It’s okay to want to lose weight, get stronger, be healthier, etc. And it’s okay to think about what it will be like to be at that point. However, it is SO important that while you’re trying to get there, you don’t neglect (or worse – hate/reject/bash) your current body. Instead, cherish it.
As Sarah Jenks says, it’s okay to dream about your future home, but make sure at the same time you’re making your current home feel as inviting, cozy, and inspiring as possible.
In fact, when we feel how we want to feel TODAY, it makes it that much easier to get where we want to be. We need less food to soothe our negative, unwanted feelings.
Which brings me to #2.
2. Decide how you want to feel each day. The more we feel how we want to feel, the less we need to use food to fill the voids.
So, ideally, how do you want to feel in your body/clothes each day?
Confident? Comfortable? Sexy? Fashionable? Fun? Inspired?
Now, ask yourself if your current way of getting dressed is making you feel that way.
If you’re shoving yourself into jeans that are too tight and blouses that cut you off, you’re probably feeling sad, uncomfortable, and frustrated. And I know for me, when I used to feel this way, I’d do anything to soothe myself (aka eat cookies).
3. Get rid of any clothes that don’t make you feel the way you want to feel.
Your goal is to wake up in the morning, open the doors of your closet, and feel how you want to feel – peaceful, excited, inspired, etc.
Those skinny jeans that you hope you’ll fit into in 6 months? Put them away for now. Hide them, out of sight. They are doing nothing but making you feel crappy about yourself right now.
Think about what you can store for later, donate, or even bring to a consignment store.
I’ve had so many clients say to me “you really want me to get rid of those jeans (that are two sizes too small)??” Yes. And then they come back a week later and say “ok, I got rid of them and I feel SO much better”
There is something that energetically shifts when you get rid of clothes that don’t fit.
It sends a message to yourself that says …. you’re okay right now. You’re enough. You deserve to be taken care of, cherished and loved right now. You deserve to live a great life and feel how you want to feel TODAY.
And what can be more relieving and uplifting as that?
4. If needed, think of creative ways to add to your wardrobe.
If money is tight, try to get creative.
Swap clothes with friends (I’m currently doing this with some jeans with one of my friends!)
Think about upcoming holidays – birthdays, etc., and see if you can add a piece or two from any gifts you’ll be receiving.
Try selling to a consignment shop.
Think of creative, out of the box ways to bring in a little bit more income that you can use toward a small shopping budget or rearrange your budget. Overtime, slowly add to your wardrobe with the intention of continuing to feel the way you want to feel.
So the moral of the story is….
When you wake up and open the doors of your closet each day, aim to feel exactly how you want to feel.
Inspired, excited, confident…
And clean out anything that makes you feel less than that. No more jeans that dig into you or shirts that don’t flatter you in your current form.
You deserve to feel how you want to feel TODAY.
In the comments below, I’d love to hear… does your closet need a makeover? How do you want to feel when you look at your closet each morning? What are you going to remove OR add to your closet in order to feel this way?
Sending you tons of lovin’!
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