I’m sitting in a gorgeous new-to-me coffee shop in Brooklyn, sipping an Americano, and about to meet up with a new friend.
I’m wearing an outfit I love, chatting with clients who I adore working with, and excited to rest this afternoon because I’ve been feeling tired today and I know my body needs rest.
As I’ve been sitting here, I’ve been thinking about the importance of KNOWING ourselves.
Knowing how we like to structure our days.
Knowing what kinds of environments we like to work in.
Knowing when we need more connection in our lives vs. delicious alone time.
Knowing what kinds of foods we like to eat.
Knowing what inspires us and brings our most creative selves forward.
Knowing what we need in intimate relationships in order to feel GOOD.
Knowing what turns us on.
Knowing what we like to do with our free time.
Knowing what triggers us, what our wounds are.
The funny part about knowing ourselves, is that the journey to “knowing” never ends. We are constantly changing and evolving, so we need to keep learning about ourselves as we grow.
I was just talking to a client of mine about navigating a new romantic relationship she’s entering into. At the core of our work, is me helping her KNOW herself so that she can navigate the relationship with as much ease as possible.
I’ve helped thousands of clients get to KNOW themselves around food. They’ve stopped listening to all the outside “rules”, and have learned what works for their specific, beautiful, unique body.
The way I navigate every day of my life comes from the root of KNOWING myself. I know what matters to me, what makes me happy, the ways my sensitive self needs to be cared for and comforted, what I need to physically thrive, what my values are, what my triggers are, and what my challenges are.
I speak with women all the time who are operating so from their head space — doing what they “should” do or what they think is expected of them — because they haven’t spent the time dropping into THEMSELVES and really getting to KNOW themselves.
So they end up confused as heck around food.
Living their day to day in a way that leaves them feeling exhausted, dull, or uninspired.
Shaming themselves for their feelings or parts of themselves that are “sensitive”.
In careers that don’t feel meaningful.
Struggling in relationships.
I used to not know myself AT ALL. I would just look at what everyone else was doing or what I perceived to be expected from me, and did that.
It led me down a path of really low self-esteem, binge eating, tons of insecurity, a career path that was not right for me, and a lack of intimacy.
Getting to KNOW myself, little by little, has made me feel so much more empowered.
Empowered around food and knowing how to make my OWN choices.
Empowered in my career – to navigate it in accordance to what I really want.
Empowered in my relationships – to find my VOICE, express myself fully, and ask for what I need.
Empowered in the way I live my daily life – spending my time in ways that light me up, every day.
So I want to ask you… how well do you think you truly KNOW yourself? And how committed are you to continuing to get to KNOW yourself deeply as you grow and evolve?
Knowing yourself gives you power. It gives you a feeling of safety within the world. It gives you the foundation for creating a life that makes YOU feel awesome.