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The Blog:

This place is for you: To explore what your soul needs to hear today.

I mainly write about Inner Critic, Self-Care, Following Your Intuition, Life + Evolving, and the occasional Recipe. Enjoy!

How to feel more confident

Confidence is such a funny thing. We had it when we were little — naively unaware of judgement from others or the need to censor our behavior or “fit in”. Think about your toddler or a toddler you know — they don’t have a “self-esteem” issue, right? They are who they are unapologetically, free from…

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Jamie Mendell, wrapped in a blanket

Let Yourself Rest in Unconventional Ways (4pm movie, anyone?)

Two days ago, the clock struck 4:00pm and all I was secretly craving was to close up my computer, get under a blanket on the couch and watch a movie. For a brief moment, I heard my inner critic interject…

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Your inner critic needs to hear this.

This week on my Instagram stories, I showed myself winding down from my work day by taking a moment to let go of any critical or judgmental thoughts toward myself or my day before going into the evening with my family. I do this because so much happens in a day. You start out feeling…

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My Curated Holiday Gift Guide is HERE!

Although I am a little late to the game, I am assuming some of you are still in search of holiday gifts for your loved ones (as am I!), so wanted to send you a curated (not overwhelming!) little gift guide with a few of my favorite things. I hope this helps in your gift search!

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Please stop judging yourself like this

Yesterday I was on a call with a client who just broke things off with a guy she was dating for a couple of months. She said “I was only dating him for a couple of months, I ‘shouldn’t’ be this sad. I don’t ‘get to be’ this sad”. Mmm, immediately my coaching ears perked up…

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When You Want Something To Work Out, And It Doesn’t

As you may have seen on Instagram last week, Ryan and I put an offer down on a house we loved and were under contract. In the last 24 hours before putting down our deposit, the whole deal collapsed.

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What if you didn’t need to be 100% clear to say What if you didn’t need to be 100% clear to say “yes” to something?

To an idea.
To a relationship.
To an opportunity.

What if your search for a ‘full bodied YES’ is actually keeping you stuck?

What if, rather than waiting until every cell in your body is clear, you’re okay with 90%?

For us perfectionists, it’s easy to get stuck while searching for that 100% clarity. That full bodied yes. That clear-as-day lightbulb moment.

And here’s what I’ve learned...

So many of the best, biggest decisions I’ve made haven’t felt 100% clear.

Because I’m someone who often has a little doubt, a little “but what if”, a little overanalyzing, a little fear sprinkled in there.

But if I keep waiting for that 100%, I stay stuck. Paralyzed. Not moving forward.

So, I want to free you of this quest to feel 100% clear on something before you take the leap.

Of course do the work to understand how you feel about something, tune into your intuition, feel it in your body, and go through your process to KNOW as much as you can possibly know.

But also, let it be okay if you’re 90% clear with 10% doubt.

✨You don’t need to wait till 100%, because 100% may never come.

That’s why it’s called a leap of faith - you take a leap on that 10%, recognizing that you’ll never really KNOW until you try it.

So if there’s something you’re waiting to feel 100% about before you do it, can you stop searching for that perfect clarity? Can 90% be enough? Can you take that leap of faith and then LEARN from the experience?

I’m over here leaping into my 90%’s, and I hope this helps you do the same. Love you! xx.
When I lived in NYC, people always said, “I’ve When I lived in NYC, people always said, “I’ve heard dating in NYC is SO hard!”

Somehow I knew - instinctively - that hearing that and believing that was not going to be good for me.

So I learned to put up an energetic boundary around that idea.

No, thank you. ✋🏻🚫

Why would I want to buy into that? It was only going to make dating miserable!

And so I chose a new way: to see the possibilities.

The fact that there were SO many men in NYC and my apps would never run out of options 😝

The fact that NYC had some of the most incredible date spots in the world.

The fact that the city oozes with romance.

And because I chose to see it in this light, and not get caught up in all the people saying how hard it was, I had such a fun time dating there. If I had to pick a city to do it all over again, I’d 100% pick NYC.

—> When I moved to San Francisco, people said “It can be really hard to make new friends in San Francisco.”

Again.. no thank you. Boundary up.

I chose to believe that I can make friends anywhere and find my people wherever I go.

And sure enough, I had no problem making friends.

The point is…

We choose our reality.

We choose to see something as hard or easy.

We choose to see something as a dead end or brimming with opportunity.

We choose to believe there are no good men out there or that there are plenty.

We choose to believe that we have to work in a job we hate to make good money or to believe that we can love what we do and be successful at the same time.

We choose to believe that being in a larger body than last year is bad or that it’s perfectly okay.

We choose.
You choose.

And your body knows.

Your body will tell you if believing a certain thing feels good to you or not. Does believing it make you feel expansive or contracted? Does it inspire you or make you feel stuck?

Listen to what feels good + choose. Your reality depends on it.✨🌸
Ryan and I refer to the little pouch of fat around Ryan and I refer to the little pouch of fat around my belly button as “Rigi”.

It’s short for “Rigatoni” and we named her 2 years ago when we were in Italy and I was eating pasta at least once a day and my stomach got a little ‘softer and fuller’, shall we say. 🍝

We refer to her all the time and we love her. 🥰

This is probably very weird, but ya know, we ARE very weird, so there’s that. 🤣

I share this to say…

Can we add a little lightness and humor to the conversation around our changing bodies?

As women we are soo deeply conditioned to think:

Fat on our bodies is bad
Gaining weight is bad and wrong
Something bad will happen to us if we are heavier

So black and white. So harsh. So closed off to what inevitably happens in life: our bodies change.

I can feel that body image stuff is UP for people right now.

After surviving a year of a pandemic, raise your hand if your body feels different.🙋🏻‍♀️

How could it not?

And if there’s one thing I want you to know, it’s that it really doesn’t matter.

While I know it feels scary, everything that you want in your life is still completely available to you in the body you’re in.

It’s just an illusion that you can’t be confident or happy or loved or feminine unless you look a certain way. I promise.

So here’s a couple things to help you shift to a better place with your body today if you need this:

1. If you notice your body feels different, just gently check-in. Ask your body, is there anything you need from me in order to feel better (NOT “lose weight”, but FEEL better)? See if she wants different foods or different movement or more rest or whatever comes up.

2. If she says yes, great --> this is your chance to listen + gently adjust.

3. If she says no, that you are doing everything you can right now and it’s enough —> your only job is to go on the journey of accepting her as she is. A little humor and levity is a great place to start.

From my rigatoni stomach to (maybe) yours, you do not need to fit into the same pants as last year or be as toned or as fit to be worthy of every single thing you want.

This, I promise to you.

xx

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