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The Blog:

This place is for you: To explore what your soul needs to hear today.

I mainly write about Inner Critic, Self-Care, Following Your Intuition, Life + Evolving, and the occasional Recipe. Enjoy!

How to feel more confident

Confidence is such a funny thing. We had it when we were little — naively unaware of judgement from others or the need to censor our behavior or “fit in”. Think about your toddler or a toddler you know — they don’t have a “self-esteem” issue, right? They are who they are unapologetically, free from…

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Jamie Mendell, wrapped in a blanket

Let Yourself Rest in Unconventional Ways (4pm movie, anyone?)

Two days ago, the clock struck 4:00pm and all I was secretly craving was to close up my computer, get under a blanket on the couch and watch a movie. For a brief moment, I heard my inner critic interject…

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Your inner critic needs to hear this.

This week on my Instagram stories, I showed myself winding down from my work day by taking a moment to let go of any critical or judgmental thoughts toward myself or my day before going into the evening with my family. I do this because so much happens in a day. You start out feeling…

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My Curated Holiday Gift Guide is HERE!

Although I am a little late to the game, I am assuming some of you are still in search of holiday gifts for your loved ones (as am I!), so wanted to send you a curated (not overwhelming!) little gift guide with a few of my favorite things. I hope this helps in your gift search!

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Please stop judging yourself like this

Yesterday I was on a call with a client who just broke things off with a guy she was dating for a couple of months. She said “I was only dating him for a couple of months, I ‘shouldn’t’ be this sad. I don’t ‘get to be’ this sad”. Mmm, immediately my coaching ears perked up…

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Clean, well-organized kitchen

When You Want Something To Work Out, And It Doesn’t

As you may have seen on Instagram last week, Ryan and I put an offer down on a house we loved and were under contract. In the last 24 hours before putting down our deposit, the whole deal collapsed.

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If you’re listening to all the dating podcasts t If you’re listening to all the dating podcasts to figure out how to BE in a relationship //

The books
The dating podcasts
The Youtube videos

There is so much out there now about how a woman should attract a man

— You seduce him by sitting back and letting him come to you
— Don’t be too available or forward
— Be in your feminine goddess essence (lol)

Oh man, have I been there! I was laughing with a client last week about this, and how I legit bought a book called ‘How to Make Every Man Want You’ when I was dating. And trust me, I’ve spent my fair share of hours reading dating blogs where men tell you what kind of woman to be to ‘get the man’.

OY.

If you’re in this space, I want to tell you what I told my client:

Want to attract the right partner?

Just 👏🏻be 👏🏻yourself.

Text him if you want to text him.
Initiate plans if you want to see him.
Bring up the “what are we?” conversation if your heart really wants clarity.

Seriously. Throw out the rules + the noise.

I legitimately wouldn’t be married to Ryan right now if I listened to the dating advice I read about not being “too forward” or “too this” or “too that”.

And the phrase “be yourself”? I know, it can feel so confusing. But who am I?

You are different in every moment!

Some days you might intuitively feel the urge to sit back and let him initiate.

Some days you might feel the urge to reach out and make plans and be more forward.

AND IT’S ALL OKAY. You are a fluid woman, and nothing is wrong with any of these parts of you.

I made quantum leaps in my dating life when I started to trust MY WAY. And it led to real, authentic love.

So I want to leave you with this question to ask yourself:

✨👉🏻“If I trusted that I knew what I was doing in dating, what would I do?”

And try acting from THAT place.

Bonus? This is how you grow confidence. By sending yourself a message of, “honey, I am learning to trust that YOUR way is enough.”

And the more you approve of YOUR way, the more you bloom from the inside-out, and the more magnetic you become.✨
I’ve been needing more rest in the past week. S I’ve been needing more rest in the past week.

So I’ve rested more.

Period.

I initially wrote a long post about this, but then I realized it doesn’t need to be explained or justified.

It just is.

When you need rest,

You can take it.

You may not be able to find it right in that moment, but you can notice the desire + move toward it.

I’ve needed it. I can feel it in every part of me.

So I find ways to do it.

At some point I will have more outward energy, and that will be wonderful, too.

But right now, I am in a season of ‘more rest, please. More quiet’.

✨And I’m finding ways to give that to myself. And it’s a beautiful part of being a woman. Of being a human. Of being alive.

I love this inward part of me, just as much as the magnetic outward part of me.

It’s fun to ebb and flow. It’s fun to play with different parts of you + different energies. It’s fun to see what’s waiting for you in the ‘rest’.

Yesterday I posted that I was crawling back in bed at 2:30pm to rest and many of you said “thank you for sharing this and making this okay”.

Trust what you need. It’s always okay. You’re allowed. ❤️
HERE’S HOW TO FEEL MORE CONFIDENT // Confidence HERE’S HOW TO FEEL MORE CONFIDENT //

Confidence is a funny thing.

We have it when we’re little -- blissfully unaware of judgement or the need to “fit in”.

But then, something happens along the way that makes us question ourselves.

> Maybe it’s becoming aware that your body looks different than others’

> Maybe it’s being left out in gym class, + wondering why

> Maybe it’s your mom saying “stop being __ (shy, loud, etc.).”

✨And then, the self-doubt creeps in, + you:

> Wonder if you’re okay + good enough

> Worry you may not fit in unless you change some aspect of yourself

> Label parts of yourself as “good” + “bad”

👉🏻And what does this lead to?

😬Feeling nervous to be yourself

⚡️Putting other people on a pedestal

🙄Constantly seeking acceptance + validation

💆🏻‍♀️A lack of self-trust

🚶🏻‍♀️Self-criticism

You see other women so comfortable in their skin and you’re like,

✨Gosh, I want to be like that.

I want to:

🥳Show up to a social scene and feel totally relaxed in who I am.

💪🏻Feel confident at work, instead of like an imposter.

🧘🏻‍♀️Trust my decisions, even if they’re different from others’.

🌈You have a vision of “confident you”, but you can’t quite seem to get there.

I LOVE this topic because working on my “self-esteem” has been a crucial pillar of my growth as a woman.

And I will say:

💫Becoming increasingly confident in who you are is the BEST feeling.

It takes SO. MUCH. WEIGHT off your shoulders.

It restores you to what you know deep down: you’re perfectly alright.

IT FREES YOU.

That doesn’t mean I don’t still have my moments. I do! 🙋🏻‍♀️

But when something pops up now, I know the steps to work through it. I know the path, so it gets easier + easier.

👉🏻Want to know the “how” behind feeling more confident?

Well… I’ve got you.

⚡️TOMORROW @ 1PM ET, I’m leading a free workshop called:

💕Tangible Steps To Feeling More Confident

It’ll be filled with steps you can take now to start feeling more confident in every part of your life.

🍾I’m hosting it in my free Facebook community called TRANSCEND + we’d absolutely love to have you.

Click the link in my bio to join us! It’s free baby!💋

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