The day I was cracked open

You may find this surprising, but I used to dread the idea of sitting around a room with a bunch of women talking about our “feelings” and deep, personal things.

I was comfortable enough working with private coaches and mentors, but sit around with a whole group of women talking about myself?


So uncomfortable.

About 6 years ago I worked with a relationship coach one-on-one. Twice during our 6 month coaching program together, she held retreats in NYC for all of her private clients.

The idea of attending her first retreat made me squirm.

I was more insecure at that point in my life and “in my shell” and the idea of going to this retreat with all these women I didn’t know and talk about intimate things totally freaked me out.

But, I went.

I remember being SO nervous.

Will they all know each other?

Ahh, I hate speaking in front of groups.

What are we even going to be doing for these two days?

There was so much unknown!

As the women came in, I realized that it wasn’t just me – everyone was nervous and tentative. Of course we all would be… nobody knew what to expect and coming together to talk about real things is a stretch for most people.

We bonded immediately because we were all in the same boat.

In fact, we needed each other.

The retreat was only about 8-10 women, so at the beginning, each woman had a chance to talk to the group about why she was there and what was going on in her life / relationships.

I was petrified for my turn.

When it was my turn to speak, I started sharing and then…crying.

It was like years of things I had struggled with had all bottled up and now, in front of all these women I didn’t know, it was all coming out.

I had been working with my coach for a couple months at this point, and my sessions with her were not as emotional.

But…I think there was something about having these women, with their hearts wide open and ready to listen to me, that made my heart soften to a point that it needed to get to.

It was in the moment of my heart softening and being supported by this strong web of women that I was able to finally get honest with myself about certain things and release so much crap I had been holding onto (and that had been holding me back).

That moment was a big turning point for me in my life.

It was that day that I let my heart fully open.

I let myself admit to things that weren’t working for me. That I was upset and angry about.

I faced emotions that had been suppressed for so many years, that I didn’t even know I had.

I let it all go.

And I was SO supported. I looked around and saw other women tearing up as they watched me.

Because even though they didn’t know me, they still saw themselves in me. And they saw their own story in my story. And their hearts were open.

As each woman went around and shared her own story, straight from her heart, I also saw myself in every single one of them.

Being in that safe, loving environment was crucial for me to grow in ways that changed my life.

Once I accessed and felt my real emotions, and got real about what wasn’t working, I could then fill myself back up with what I DID want.

I was able to experience love, acceptance (of others and myself), intimacy, joy, and deep connection in a way I couldn’t in the past.

When I attended my coach’s second retreat, a few months later, it was an entirely different experience.

I didn’t get as emotional because I wasn’t in a “breaking open” place anymore. I was in a new phase of asking myself big questions, getting even more clarity around my tendencies, and removing any blocks to getting what I wanted.

When I go to retreats today, sometimes I look for experiences that will “open me” again, taking me to a whole new level of experiencing myself. This is where the good stuff is!

And sometimes, I look for experiences that are going to do something else for me, depending on what I am craving. Sometimes I’m simply seeking fun, sometimes learning, sometimes creating new friendships.

The Master Your Life Retreat is going to be a balance of depth and lightness, of the kind of coaching that gets you somewhere NEW, and fun that makes you want to kick back and just enjoy every moment of life as it is.

If you feel, deep down, that you might need a “breaking open” moment at the retreat, to shift something real, I’ve got you.

If you want to come to take your self-care to the next level so you feel even more alive, vibrant and on purpose in your life, I’ve got you.

If you want to come to have FUN and be taken care of for the weekend, I’ve got you.

But regardless of what you come for, I’ll tell you this..

The fact that there will be a community of women with open hearts SEEING you, recognizing their own stories in your story, and giving you space to do whatever it is you’re coming to do, is life changing.

Reading books, coaching one-on-one, listening to workshops — these are all valuable, but nothing affects you quite like a retreat.

Anytime I have held a workshop or a retreat, all of the women are shocked at how much they get out of simply the community aspect of it.

Of seeing that they are not alone in their seemingly solo struggle.

I know, because I get it.

I used to be petrified of these experiences, and now they are a non-negotiable for me.

I would love to invite you again to the Master Your Life Retreat in NYC in May. We already have the most amazing group of women attending, and I would absolutely love for you to join.

Quick reminder, the early bird promo of 15% off the retreat is available for you until the end of March (10 more days!). You can use the code MYLRETREAT15.

If you have any questions at all, just hit reply and I am happy to answer your q’s!


P.S. Here’s the link for the retreat again! Remember, early bird 15% off is only for 10 more days. Code: MYLRETREAT15.

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