Dating, sometimes more than anything, can really challenge us. It can feel exhilarating and promising at times, and downright defeating and completely confusing at others.
On a basic human level, we all want love. Because we want it so badly, we often over analyze our every move to try to get love from another person.
We watch what we say. We monitor how eager we appear or how expressive we are because we don't want to scare him off. We want certain things from the relationship but don't want to appear too needy.
We question ourselves, we hold back, we feel stifled.
And as if that wasn’t stressful enough… introduce dating apps!
How do we enjoy something that can feel so superficial, depressing and robotic? How do we even get a decent date?
Dating can bring up so much uncertainty.
It challenges our self-trust, our ability to confidently express ourselves, and our self-worth.
But, it’s also one of the most powerful opportunities for us to grow. For us to learn to trust ourselves at every corner, practice honoring what we want, and love ourselves unconditionally.
When I moved to NYC 9 years ago, I was terrified of dating. My self-esteem was at an all-time low and I was so insecure in my skin. I dreaded going on a date.
As I dated around, I got more used to the dating process, but I still struggled with my self-confidence. I was constantly focused on what the other person thought of me and always put guys on pedestals the second I liked them.
Underneath that, I had stacks of negative beliefs about myself and about love. I didn't think that a guy I liked could actually like me back. I didn't understand why someone would choose me over all other people. I thought I needed to be like other women around me in order to be loved, and sometimes I felt so different.
I started to work A TON on myself in this area. I hired a dating coach. I worked with a therapist. I attended retreats. I filled the pages of countless journals, digging into my inner world and trying to break through these ideas that held me back.
As I worked through my beliefs about myself and about dating, my outer experience changed. I attracted different men. I started to love going on dates. While dating still felt challenging at times, I felt more at ease and self-assured, knowing how to navigate the ups and downs in my own way.
Most importantly... I learned how to trust myself. To make decisions. To express myself freely. To be ME.
I have so many stories and lessons that I've learned in the past 9 years that I share in this workshop.
If my story sounds familiar to you at all, I hope that this resource helps you navigate the dating world with a little more ease and a lot less stress!
+ How to be excited by your own life while simultaneously honoring your desire for a relationship
+ How to express yourself freely, without being so worried about what the other person will think
+ How to navigate dating apps: how to enjoy the process, create real connection, and let your personality come through
+ How to manage your anxieties and insecurities that inevitably get triggered when dating
+ How to make decisions that are right for you - about which relationships to be in and which to let go of
+ How to find your own voice, be more you, and date in your OWN way (no "rules"!)
- The workshop is 2.5 hours
- Everything is on video
- I teach for about the first hour, and then there is discussion and Q&A with women who were live during the workshop
- My boyfriend, Ryan, came on for 45 minutes to offer a male's perspective to questions that the women had for him
- You will get access to the full video workshop and also an audio version for your convenience