If we were having coffee right now, this is what I’d tell you…

Oh, how I love these posts. They are always such a pleasure to write, and I love hearing what’s going on in your life, too.

If you’re new around here, I write these “coffee chat” posts a few times a year and get to talk to you like we’re friends having a cup of coffee. I love the intimacy! Here is my last “coffee chat” post – my first one written from SF.

I felt like this post was needed since I haven’t been emailing as much lately. I have SO many ideas for blog posts in the next several months, but first, I just want to catch up!

So here goes…

If we were having coffee right now, I’d tell you how I’m feeling about living in SF these days, now that it’s been 6 months. To be honest, I am really liking it here. When we first moved, whenever we’d talk about being here for more than a couple of years, I would get so much anxiety and could barely think about that possibility. I needed it to be a short-term thing. Now, if something ever makes us feel like it may be longer, I notice that my chest doesn’t tighten and that my body feels calm. It shows me how much more comfortable I’m feeling about life here. I still don’t want to be here forever (our families are all on the east coast), but I at least feel at ease riding it out and seeing how things go, which makes me feel relieved! (so much more on my life in SF so far here… I wrote a huge update!).

If we were having coffee right now, I’d tell you that I recently hired a new coach! In this post, I told you that I was doing a lot of soul-searching around the direction of my business since my business turned 5 years old in December. These last several months have been all about me taking a step back, evaluating everything I’ve created in my business in the past 5 years, and digging deep around what I want to create moving forward. After a few months, I was hitting walls within my own brain and intuition and felt lost, so I knew I needed to get support. After interviewing several people, I hired a brand strategist to help me. OMG, it felt SO good to get some help! Isn’t it funny how we will beat our heads against a wall for so long instead of realizing that we can just get help with something!? Working with her over the past 6 weeks or so has helped me so much. I’m getting so much more clarity on how I want to move forward and she’s really pushing me to create a business I love even more. I feel lighter, so inspired, and ready for this next phase of my business.

If we were having coffee right now, I’d update you a bit on my health, because that has been an interesting journey this year. This deserves a big post of its own, but I’ll give you the short version today. When I came out here, I joined a Functional Medicine practice that I had always been interested in called Parsley Health. Basically, with functional medicine, they look at the root causes of any symptoms you’re experiencing and look at your health holistically. Parsley focuses on exceptional doctor-patient relationships and care, really giving you time and looking at the full picture of your health. I decided to do it mostly out of curiosity and as someone who always wants to better her health. While I don’t have any major symptoms, I have had psoriasis on my scalp since I was 10 and was curious why I had that – was there a deeper issue? I’ve also been prone to yeast infections in the past, and have had some minor skin issues this year. I just wanted more information.

My doctor had me take a ton of tests, and it turns out I have Leaky Gut (likely from my binge eating days) and also high estrogen, which can lead to breast cancer. For my gut, I was put on a pretty strict protocol: no gluten, dairy, coffee, alcohol, very low sugar. I also had a bunch of supplements to take. It was a MAJOR overhaul.

To make a long story short, as someone who values freedom around food and listening to her own body, this has been quite the journey for me. At first, like a good student, I tried being 100% “following doctor’s orders”. But after a couple weeks, I found myself extremely stressed, feeling deprived, and even having thoughts of binge eating like I did in my past. I had to come to terms with the fact that going 100% in all capacities was just not going to work for me – not given my past, and not given what I value in my life. So I took the recommendations and made them work for me. I loosened the reins where I could and I spent time figuring out how to compromise – how to heal my body but also enjoy my life. I am so proud of myself for taking my doctor’s recommendations but finding what works for me – mentally, emotionally, and physically.

I know that so many of you are also balancing your health with intuitive eating and enjoying your life, so I want to talk more about this in the next few months to help you guys in this area. More to come, but please do let me know if you have questions in the meantime.

If we were having coffee right now, I’d tell you that I am loving the dance classes I’m doing in SF, and that they are teaching me so much about myself! I have always, always wanted to get into dance classes. My one regret from my childhood is not having gotten into dance, because I love it so much and think it would have been such a fun form of activity growing up. So, as an adult, I’ve been wanting to make up for it for a while now, but finding dance classes in NYC always felt hard – I could never really find a class that was right for me. My coworking space, The Assembly, just added dance classes on Tuesday nights to their fitness schedule, and I also found a dance studio nearby (one of you recommended it, THANK YOU LIZ!) that has dance workouts. The two classes are totally different, but I am carving out time for both.

Want to know why I love dance classes so much and why I keep pushing myself to go? Dance classes are an opportunity for me to work on letting go of perfectionism (because I am not very good!), not caring about what other people think, being in my OWN body instead of trying to follow every step perfectly, and just letting go! They are SUCH a good opportunity for me to stretch myself mentally and emotionally, plus I get to have fun.

How do you feel about dance classes? Do they freak you out? If so, I’d so recommend going to one and playing around with your mental game while you’re in there! 🙂

If we were having coffee right now, I’d tell you that one thing I don’t think is talked about enough is the ups and downs that healthy, stable relationships go through. I feel really lucky that Ryan and I have, for the most part, a very easy, even-keeled relationship. That’s the kind of relationship that I was seeking, and I love how easy it is and how it lets me focus on so many other things in my life. However, that doesn’t mean it is perfect and that we don’t hit our bumps. We definitely do! And I think it’s so important, for us perfectionists out there, to recognize that even the healthiest, most loving relationships ebb and flow. Ryan and I hit a bit of a bump a few weeks ago and had some super honest, vulnerable conversations. They brought us even closer and I feel even more confident in our relationship, AND I noticed that while I was going through it, it was hard for me to remember that this is normal.

I always try to be an advocate for showing you “real life”, so I just want you to know… even though you see all the lovey-dovey highlights of someone’s relationship on social media or in your life, it is totally OKAY and actually so good for your relationship to go through challenging moments. You learn so much more about each other, you get to work on your most vulnerable communication skills, and you build trust and love in the relationship.

If we were having coffee right now, I’d tell you that I created something beautiful for you! A body image program… Last winter, I surveyed you guys and asked what you were looking for and what you wanted more support in. The overwhelming #1 thing you asked for was more support around body image and feeling really good in your body. So, I created a 21 Day Body Image Challenge course for you. I designed it as a 21-day Challenge because I’ve seen in my own life and with my clients that a strong, loving relationship with your body doesn’t happen overnight; it happens bit by bit, step by step, making small little changes that add up to an entirely different experience. So the Challenge has 21 steps, over 21 days (you practice a new one each day) to help you feel way more connected to your body and comfortable in your skin. You’re going to really learn what it looks like to treat your body beautifully.

I am running a Beta version of the program in August (we start Aug 6th) and I’ll be doing the course alongside you, supporting you in our private FB group each day. We have a great group of women already in it (I spoke about it on IG a week or so ago), and would love to have you join us in the August Beta if you’d like!

The Beta means that because it’s the first time I’m running it, you’ll be able to join at a discount in exchange for letting me know how you like it and providing feedback so I can make the course even better!

If you would like more details and to join us, just hit reply and let me know and I’ll send you all the details!

If we were having coffee right now, I’d want to know about you and what’s going on in your life. What lessons are you learning these days? Where are you pushing yourself and growing? What’s challenging you right now? What do you want support with?

I’d love for you to answer these questions and let me know! I’ll be around today replying to your comments so that we can imagine we really are chatting over coffee!

If we were having coffee right now, what would you share with me? I’d love to know what’s on your heart these days.

Thanks for being here, and sending you lots of love. Happy weekend!

Love,
Jamie

P.S. I am on Instagram stories almost every day, sharing life + lessons, so would love to chat with you there, too!

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  1. I feel your pain on the restricted diet. I’ve been having GI issues for over a year and started out cutting out gluten and dairy and sugar. That didn’t work, though I struggled to be consistent. Now I’m doing an elimination diet where the only grain I’m eating is quinoa and I’ve cut out nuts, soy, yeast, eggs, a long list of fruits and vegetable (FODMAPS), and a bunch of other things in addition to the gluten, dairy and sugar. I’m also vegetarian by choice. I feel better though it’s a struggle not to cheat.
    When might you be accepting new private clients?

    • Hey Jen! Thanks for sharing. Oy,that sounds like quite the journey to figure out what will work for you – good for you for trying different things out and I’m glad you feel better. I will email you about coaching! 🙂 xx.

  2. Hi Jamie, love hearing from you. I’m in the middle of one of the hardest best challenges of my life. I’m on my way from not knowing how to skate to becoming a roller derby player. My roller derby league will support you in learning and I’ve always wanted to do derby so I decided to join up. It is so freaking hard, oh my god. It’s the most physically and mentally challenging thing I’ve ever done. Some days I finish my daily skating (I skate in my kitchen when we don’t have practice) and I am absolutely certain that it’s not worth it, I will never learn, and I should quit. But I always put my skates on the next day and get to work. Today I had a really awesome skate. I totally skated all around my kitchen without touching anything for balance. Given that I’ve been at this for a month and that is where I am it would be easy to get frustrated but I choose to focus on the joy of the movement and my pride that I continue to make steps.

    • Meg! You are such a rockstar. I love this so so so much, and I love the way you are looking at it. It is so important sometimes to challenge ourselves and see what we are made of. You are so inspiring. Thank you for sharing. <3

  3. Kat Nesbitt says:

    Hey Jamie, what a great way to share life lessons in such a vulnerable way with all of us! I know I really appreciate the honesty and support. I recently moved to Los Angeles in the last month. So I am enjoying growing along side you as you learn to adjust to a new city and environment. I haven’t started working yet so I have been focusing on utilizing this time off to explore and discover as much as I can about the area. I also just joined a YMCA near my place and am very excited to try all the different fitness classes they offer. Several of which are dance classes. I’ve always been scared to try one, especially alone. But after reading about your experience I’m encouraged to jump into and see what I can learn about myself! I will be signing up for the Body Image challenge too which I’m really looking forward to! I decided to take a social media fast for the weekend and I’m finding it super refreshing, however I do miss seeing your stories haha. Thank you again for all you do to inspire and uplift all of us as we seek better health in every area of our lives❤️

    • Thank you so much Kat. I am so excited to work with you in the BI Challenge, and YES take those dance classes, haha!! See how it is for you! Cheering you on from here 🙂

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