How To Stop Feeling “Behind” In Life

In the past year or so, I’ve experienced the feeling of being “behind” in life. Ryan and I got married a few years later than most of my close friends, and by now, they’ve all had one or two kids. As we think about starting a family, I noticed that I felt so much anxiety – both in mind and in my body – about being “behind”.  We need to catch up. We’re getting old. Life is getting away from me. We need to have kids, like, now or else I’ll keep getting farther and farther…

Last Time We Were Here, I Thought We Might Break Up

I’m currently in DC at Ryan’s sisters house, and want to share a story about fear of rejection that I was immediately reminded of when I walked in. While we’re here now as newlyweds, the last time we stayed in the room we’re staying in, I had so much anxiety thinking that Ryan and I may be breaking up. The last time we were here, he had just gotten his job offer in San Francisco, and it was really sinking in that he (and likely we) would be moving. About a week before coming to meet his sister for the first…

Checking In With You, Anti-Racism, and This Space

I want to take some time today to check in with you. To talk about what’s been happening in our world lately, and to see how you are. First and foremost, I want to thank you for being here. I love the community we have, and learning and growing alongside you. Thank you, especially in these past few weeks, for letting yourself feel the pain of our world and trying to learn how to help and do better, right alongside me. What we’ve seen and heard in the news in the past few weeks has been tragic, and has clearly highlighted…

Meeting Your Needs While Sharing Space With Others

I hope you are having a good week and hanging in over there. I know that in my house, we all have our good days and bad days, and just want to reiterate how normal it is to be flowing through all of the emotions right now. Today I want to talk to you about how to take care of yourself and make sure you’re meeting your basic needs that will help you feel good during this time, while also sharing space with others. This time is so unique in that many of us are in different living situations than we normally are. We are home more….